License to birth....

I have this friend I've known since high school, let's call her M. I've written about her unhealthy marriage, and hyperactive five year old child before. I caught up with her for coffee this morning, for the first time in quite a while. She immediately tells me that she's four months pregnant, which is a shock because the first time she was pregnant she had a really hard time and the doctors didn't think she would be able to conceive again. The problem is, she isn't thrilled about having another baby. She and her husband have struggled a lot financially since the birth of their first child five years ago, and now that he's started school this was meant to be M's opportunity to re-join the workforce full time and get lots of stuff sorted out. Those plans are out the window now. Hearing her talk so negatively about the fact that she was carrying another child was a little frightening. Her husband isn't the most supportive or understanding guy either. I tried to be as supportive as I could without saying "you're fucking crazy and it's time to control of your life." Also, having known M for a long time, I'm fully aware that she has a tendency to exaggerate things just to illicit a reaction from people, especially around her husband who is pretty complacent about her wants and needs. Where the hell am I going with this post? Urgh! I don't really know, I just can't stop thinking about them bringing an unwanted child into the world and how that's likely to play out.

I guess people do crazy stuff like this all the time, unfortunately.